For decades, women have been told that success means doing more, being perfect, and “leaning in”—both at work and at home. We’ve been sold the idea that we can have it all... but no one warned us about the burnout that can come with trying to live up to that promise.
We’ve learned to try harder, do more, and keep going, all in an effort to succeed in a world that hasn’t been built with women’s lives in mind. At the same time, we’re bombarded with unrealistic, curated portrayals of motherhood, homemaking, and careers—beautifully filtered on Instagram, but far removed from the daily grind of real life.
The Invisible Load
Many of the roles and responsibilities we carry as women are invisible, repetitive, and gendered—like laundry, meal planning, caregiving, and emotional labor. These are the tasks that never end, that you don’t clock out of. They fill every nook and cranny of your schedule, leaving little room to breathe.
Add to that the hormonal complexity of being a woman, and things really start to pile on.
Hormones & the Midlife Wake-Up Call
In your fertile years, estrogen supports your natural tendency to put others’ needs before your own (maternal instinct). It’s part of how we’re biologically wired. But as estrogen levels drop during midlife and beyond, it’s like someone pulling the curtain back. And yes these changes start happening in your late 30’s! New studies show that the body starts preparing for menopause 10 years in advance. Most women hit menopause between the ages of 48- 52 so minus 10 years from there and your hormones and body are already changing. You start to shift perspective - You see how much you’ve been giving—sometimes to the point of depletion—and the realization of how you are spending your energy can be intense.
You may already be in burnout from years of chronic stress and putting others' needs before your own. That burnout doesn’t just affect your mood—it amplifies your midlife symptoms too. The exhaustion, the mood swings, the big feelings like resentment, rage, guilt, and grief—they’re all real.
And if, like me (I'm 44), you’re going through this shift right now, you might be feeling the physical and emotional toll at once—unsure of who you are anymore and wondering if you're falling apart.
🌱 So Where Do We Go From Here?
The truth is, this phase of life can be an opportunity—a moment of reckoning and realignment. With the right mindset and support, you can reclaim your power, your time, and your sense of self.
Here are a few ways to begin:
🧘♀️Mindset Reset
Start by making a full assessment of all the roles, tasks, and responsibilities you’re currently holding—both at home and at work. Don’t filter. Be honest. Then remind yourself:
You are one human woman.
You deserve joy, rest, creativity & support.
Be kind to yourSELF without judgement.
You are your own greatest gift.
You do not have to carry this all alone.
Practice Radical Self-care! That means learning how to fill your cup to overflowing and give the overflow to others INSTEAD of continually emptying your cup and struggling to refill it.
🧠 Ground Yourself
Brain fog is one of the biggest worries of women in midlife. Brain Fitness is a series of movements that have been approved by neuroscientists to help with brain fog, memory, energy and cognitive function. Try these simple brain fitness moves and notice the difference!
🛑 Set One Simple Boundary
Boundaries are essential. Choose just one boundary this week that will protect your time, energy, or space. Here are some small but powerful examples:
A no-chore time each day—perhaps outside with a warm drink or a gentle walk.
A cozy, designated corner for reading, crafting, or meditating—just for you.
A screen-free hour in the evening, with your bedroom door closed and your mind off-duty.
✨ Your Small Shift Today Is Your Future Freedom
Using tiny solutions is the best path to change. That’s why we created a Tiny Course to dive a little deeper into easy to action daily baby steps that you can easily incorporate into your life. We are so excited to share with you The 10-minute Overwhelm Solution so you can discover life-changing strategies to Press reset! Get more information here.
You've tried all the old ways! It's exhausting and it's not working!
You don't need to count calories and do more cardio
You don't need to join a gym
You don't need a fad diet
You don't need a 1 hour daily meditation practice
You don't need a fancy new organizing app or journal
You don't need a 12 week program or course
This is your reminder:
You’re not here to serve everyone else until you disappear.
You’re here to live fully, with purpose, pleasure, and peace.
Now is the time to reclaim your energy, your body, your schedule—and most importantly, your self.
Your future you will thank you!